Rowland Ramble -

Why is it that some people seem to only reconsider the actions they have taken when they didn’t get what wanted even when the ones they love tried to tell them that what they were doing was harmful?
I was once married to someone who fought me tooth and nail to hang on to their ways and it destroyed us.
I tried so many times to warn them but I was just ignored and pushed aside they forged ahead…attempting to drag me along as a resource to an end that they ultimately came to…alone.
That was a learning experience that some would call baggage carried into the next relationship…I simply called it experience and weighed it against what I was seeing in a most recent relationship. Similar behaviors that were red flags that needed to be addressed. When addressed, the reaction was to snap at me or ignore my pleadings…
A reaction that I really don’t take to kindly to not out of spite but self preservation.  Now that person has moved on and left me.  I’m sad about that because it was a simple matter of listening and taking action.  I suppose they did take action. They bailed.  Maybe that is the real reason for the sadness. is the fact that they would rather bail out rather than make an effort to improve the situation.  I suppose that in their doing so, I could believe the right thing happened because it would be miserable for both of us to be in a relationship that each had such opposed views on some important aspects of life.