Your spirit has been broken but joy comes in the morning. 

I have been given the opportunity twice in life to speak with someone who I had dated seriously and then the relationship ended. 
Both times, I had concerns around continuing the relationship because I didn’t believe that the path we were traveling down together was going to be good for us both without some compromise.

My last one ended some time before I met my current and even though I was the dumped, I think it was more of a wake up attempt on their part rather than an actual breakup.  I didn’t see it that way until long after the fact.  I think it’s because I have never have responded well to such moves and they don’t register very well with me.
This was a perfect example of how a breakdown in communication caused a loss of something special.
It’s an example of why we are to be clear on what we say and how we say it.  No games, no inferred ideas but rather clear lines of communication where you speak your mind are essential.
Exercising love when you do speak your mind is key, but not telling someone you care about something that they need to hear can be more damaging than hiding the truth”out of love” for that person.
I had several concerns that may have been easily addressed but not wanting to cause what I later realized was short term pain for them, really only made things worse.
Ultimately, albeit a little late I did try to address them though…I just received unresponsive action.
I suppose that if I had addressed my concerns sooner, I could have saved us both some real pain. It would have meant that they could still have been unresponsive but I would have understood the lack of willingness to change and we both could have moved on…if we do chose.

Why is it that some people seem to only reconsider the actions they have taken when they didn’t get what wanted even when the ones they love tried to tell them that what they were doing was harmful?
I was once married to someone who fought me tooth and nail to hang on to their ways and it destroyed us.
I tried so many times to warn them but I was just ignored and pushed aside they forged ahead…attempting to drag me along as a resource to an end that they ultimately came to…alone.
That was a learning experience that some would call baggage carried into the next relationship…I simply called it experience and weighed it against what I was seeing in a most recent relationship. Similar behaviors that were red flags that needed to be addressed. When addressed, the reaction was to snap at me or ignore my pleadings…
A reaction that I really don’t take to kindly to not out of spite but self preservation.  Now that person has moved on and left me.  I’m sad about that because it was a simple matter of listening and taking action.  I suppose they did take action. They bailed.  Maybe that is the real reason for the sadness. is the fact that they would rather bail out rather than make an effort to improve the situation.  I suppose that in their doing so, I could believe the right thing happened because it would be miserable for both of us to be in a relationship that each had such opposed views on some important aspects of life.